Although women are more likely to be abused by their partners, men can be in abusive relationships too.
Abuse comes in many forms and can be both physical and psychological. It may be difficult, but it is important for every man to understand what abuse can look like. The following slides show ten behaviors that are actually signs of abuse.
If any of these seem to relate to your relationship, it is important that you walk away from it as soon as possible.
10. She Yells At You
If your girlfriend is yelling at you in front of your friends or even at home in private, this may be a sign of abuse. Yelling is never an effective way to communicate. If she can’t sit down and talk to you without raising her voice, you may want to consider leaving.
9. She Hits You
Hitting and slapping are signs of physical abuse. She may hit or slap you when you say or do something she doesn’t like. This is not okay and you may begin to feel unsafe around her. Do not hit her back! Rather, walk away from the situation and from the relationship.
8. She Doesn’t Involve You
If she’s making all of the decisions in your relationship, if she’s telling you that you have no choice in decisions that affect your life, then this might be a sign of psychological abuse. Nobody can control what you do, not even someone you love. Don’t let her decide things for you.
7. She Doesn’t Let You Hang Out With Your Friends
Maybe she doesn’t like your friends or how you act around them, but she should not determine whether you hang out with them or not. Your friends are yours to deal with and it’s important for you to have people you can rely on that aren’t her. If she doesn’t like them, she can leave.
6. She Doesn’t Let You Talk To Other Girls
This is the most common sign of psychological abuse. A lot of women get jealous when their man talks to other girls, but that doesn’t mean she can control who you talk to. You should be able to talk to whoever you want, as long as you’re being faithful and honest.
5. She Forces You To Spend Every Moment With Her
Does she only let you hang out with her? Does she make you go wherever she wants and do whatever she does? You may be in an abusive relationship. Having your own space and your own time is important for your health. Don’t let her dictate your every move.
4. She Belittles You And Calls You Names
If she’s calling you names and putting you down, then you’re in a psychologically abusive relationship. She should not be diminishing your self-worth. This may be tricky because after awhile, you may begin to believe what she says. It’s important for you to get space and learn to challenge what she’s telling you.
3. She Tells You No One Else Will Love You
This is her way of trapping you. If you are experiencing signs of relationship abuse, then you need work to get support from others, be it friends, family or a counselor. She will not be your last relationship. There will be much more and you will find true love somewhere else!
2. She Invades Your Privacy
Does she go through your phone? Does she know your passwords for Facebook and Twitter? This is not good sign. This means she doesn’t trust you, and there can be no relationship without trust. Change all of your passwords and don’t let her pry into your private life.
1. She Forces You To Have Sex
If she makes you have sex, even after you say you don’t want to, then you’re in an abusive relationship. Forced sex is rape. This doesn’t mean you’re a weak person, it means you’re in a bad relationship and you need to find someone you can talk to about it.